Post by lavishgail on Oct 20, 2018 20:06:08 GMT -5
Hi y'all, Well I was talking about my brother's Partners party for tomorrow, it's supposed to be outside because they are all too cheap to rent a place to have this party and I am bringing my 83 year old mother my sister and my husband.
I'm already stuck into going to this party because I would feel bad if I didn't, that would extremely hurt his feelings, because he is now cancer-free and it is a big time to celebrate. But my problem is as soon as I'm out in the cold air for any length of time I end up getting very sick I feel like I'm stuck in the middle I don't know what to do?
Nobody else knows what I go through except for my husband! he does not want to go and the only reason why I'm going is because they asked me to make certain things and it is my brothers Partners cancer free party.
Even though I could still become very ill from being outside I feel stuck between a rock and a hard place? I don't know what to do if anyone has any ideas of what I should do let me know I feel so stuck, plus his mom loves me his dad loves me and they want me there but they just don't get it supposed to be 41 degrees tomorrow with high winds that's freezing. I'd like to know who goes outside and has picnics and 41 degrees Fahrenheit oh okay talk to y'all later, And thanks for taking the time to read this if you have. I guess, I'll dress in layers, and bring chairs and blankets!Go home after we say , congrats,eat a little, hopefully he will understand.
His brother that is throwing this party, makes more than 300.000 a year! According to his mom! So Why couldn't they rent a restaurant? Bc, Thats why they're millionaires!! .
Post by lavishgail on Oct 20, 2018 20:12:15 GMT -5
Oh and none of them understand any of my illnesses. They always tell me to go to better doctors, blah, blah, blah, If they just maybe read a little about Lupus, and I'm not even asking for much, but none of my family or anyone else's family wants to bc its not what they have or care. Oh well. But this way they won't say I'm on to much meds, or question me why I need 02, you know the scoop. I w8sh my brother would explain, but he said it will do no good.. y'all I love you.
Dear Gail - 🙄 what are they thinking holding a party outside under those circumstances? Wind gusts are supposed to be over 40 mph this afternoon! Your poor mom shouldn’t be outside in that either. If you really feel you must attend, I would just put in a brief appearance. Bring your food contributions right when the event begins and greet everyone then. Then you can make a gracious and fast exit whenever you want. Of course dressing in layers is a must! Will there be any inside seating? Don’t worry about others not understanding - that is a losing battle. You know what is best for you and in your heart you know what you need to do. 🤞that all goes well! 😘
I agree with sallybrown. Make your entrance while smiling. Make your exit while smiling. You can act totally surprised that you didn't realize it's so nippy (Duh) out. Keep in mind the reason for the celebration. Perhaps your mother will be more anxious than you to leave or you can talk her into it. Aside: how people, especially family members react to your health issues is on them. Somethings we need to take the "young uns" reaction - "whatever". You can emphasize this with a yawn.
Gail, that is 5-C , why outside? Is he training his guests for the next winter Olympic? I know a few families that have outside Christmas parties .Here is about 100 plus in Summer.Plus all sorts of flying or crawling insects that are nasty. Do what you think is the very best for you .Just thinking maybe outside heaters would be at the party .
Post by lavishgail on Oct 22, 2018 19:52:57 GMT -5
Well we went, 8ts one hour away, We were 1 hour late . I did just what y'all said, brought the food a gift, ate and left. It all worked out fine! Thanks Girl's great advice, I love you girls! All of you.