Down in Dumps Today!

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Today is a "down in the dumps day", I guess.

Just talked to Mom. She seems like she is weaker and feeling worse than she did when she came home from rehab. Her feet have started swelling some, again, and she's coughing up a small amount of blood. And her nose is bleeding, a little.

The Home Care Nurse will be by today, and Mom is going to check all of it out with her first, to see if she needs to call her doctor.

And Mom is scared, that what went on last month will happen again. And I'm scared that they will have to put her back in the hospital.

My biggest problem, I guess, is that I can't do a d**n thing to help her or make her better.

I guess this is just a vent. But thanks for letting me.

Lynn

[cheryl]

Lynn,

I'm so sorry your mom is going through this. It's so hard when we can't do anything to help. I do hope the Home Care Nurse will be able to make some helpful suggestions that will make your mom feel better. Vent all you want, we have wide shoulders.

[cocojax]

Lynn I am so sorry to hear about your Mom, but to say that you can't do a d**n thing about it, is not quite right, you are there for your Mom and she can depend on you. Please do not be so hard on yourself. It is the most difficult thing to watch a loved one be so ill, you are there for your Mom, but please keep venting here, as we will be here for you...

[Deleted]

Thanks, Cheryl and CoCo:

I guess I'm just feeling sorry for myself and for Mom. That doesn't happen with me very often... (Thank Goodness!).

The last couple of days, it seems like everything is catching up with me and all I want to do is yell at someone, cry, or sleep!!!

Thanks again. I know things will look up, it just takes awhile, I guess....

Lynn

[cocojax]

Lynn I have been in your shoes, so I understand. I lost my Mom to Breast Cancer in 1999. I understand exactly how you feel. It is so frustrating, you are entitled to your feelings. So come and yell at us...Crying is good also as it lets some pressure off

[virginia]

Lynn, I know how you feel, and like Ellen said you are there for her and that means everything..Crying my heart out always helped me so I could rest for a while. Be thinking of you...

[Deleted]

I hope things get better for you.A good cry helps sometimes relieves stress.Just being there
means alot to someone who is so sick.Pat your self on the back sometimes you are doing everything you can.

[bobbioh]

I helped take care of my Mom for 10 yrs I went three times a week to do whatever was needed, Did all her Physical Therapy, Baths that became total bed baths over time. And total care. It was stressful at times and my poor Mom had severe bouts of depression due to stress, But I always knew she appreciated everything I did. So I understand how hard it is to care for a ill parent. I know myself I'm at 28% I have allot of depression, especially after being ill,It always seems to get you way depressed to a breaking point and after a good cry everything looks better. Hang in there you will get through this. Is your Mom on a antidepressant she may need one. Bobbi

[Joyce7]

Lynn--I am so sorry you and your mother are going through such a hard time right now. It can be so discouraging for the caregiver and well as the sick person. My prayers are with you. Just take one day at a time and don't overload your mind if possible. Then again, a good cry and vent is good for you. Hugs, Joyce

[maryaz]

Everyone has said about all there is to say. Sometimes it helps justing knowing there are others that understand and care. I hope this is the case here.

I will have you and your Mom in my thoughts and prayers. If you are a Christian, remember to look to God for comfort. Sometimes we get so caught up in things and we do need to stop and reflect. I do get caught up easy.

[Deleted]

Thank you all for your thoughts, prayers and advice.

I'm really not much of a "cry-er", but the last few days, I had my moments!!!

And you are all correct... It did help tremendously!

Things are pretty much the same. We are watching Mom's hemoglobin, trying to stay on top of the severe anemia. But, I guess my outlook is a little better.

Fear is a very disturbing emotion for me. I'm not usually too "scared" of anything. But the thought of what happened to Mom scared me to death.

Today is a new day, and a new, better attitude!!!!

Thank you all and I hope that things go well with each of you.

I may not understand your health problems from a patient's view, but I see it almost as close. I empathize with you all. And if I can be of any assistance to anyone, please, please let me know.

Thank you all, again ;D

Lynn

[stargazer]

I was sorry to read you were feeling down. I can't walk a mile in partner's shoes, I can only walk beside him and offer my shoulder for him to lean on...
Sometimes I feel that that is not enough but it's all I can do. I hope your mom improves and remember its ok to feel down in the dumps as long as you remember that there are lots of us willing to listen and hopefully help you through it.