I got a horrible phone call just while my lunch was cooking. My brother is Dead! My niece called in hysterics and I couldn't understand her but finally got it out. She found him flat on the floor, as if he'd fallen off the couch. Last contact with him was just past 10 o'clock last night on FB. The coroner stated he'd probably passed not too long after that from a massive coronary and felt no pain as it was so fast.
We are all in shock. Thank God I got to be with him yesterday and he was with his grand daughters, one of which lives with the father's parents and doesnt'[ allow him to see her often. He was so happy when he was here and enjoyed coming to visit.
I am in such pain from this, I was supposed to be the first to go. He went so long without care because of not having insurance for 2 years. How much affect did that have on his death I wonder. Since he has no assets he will get a free cremation and burial. We have to pay for the plot and something else,cant' remember what. We'll hold a memorial service in a while to celebrate his life. I am so thankful that I had gotten rid of a lot of the resentment I felt towards him for what he'd done during his crack years. He never did apologize to anyone for it and I wonder how that plays out in heaven. Well, that's between him and His Maker.
Ellen got upset that I called my other sisters. I don't understand that. Somebody needed to tell them and why not it be me? I'm the one that got the phone call alerting me of John's passing.
OK, I took an ativan and it's helping. I have a headache, though. Might have to lay down for a while. Pay for John and our family, please. Thank you.
Post by missfortune on May 6, 2013 16:46:17 GMT -5
Sue, I'm so sorry to learn about your brother. It's hard to accept even when it's expected, much less so suddenly. I'm glad you got to talk and get things straight, we always think there's time and sometimes we wait too long. You and your family will be in my prayers for peace and understanding. Hugs, missfortune Judy Z
Sue, I am so sorry to hear that John passed away last night. You were so happy to see him and his granddaughter yesterday, and to be on FB with him last night. This was so sudden, but I'm glad it was quick for him living alone can be so scary. I'm praying for peace and understanding for you and your family.
Sue, my heart goes out to you with the loss of your brother John. I am so glad you and he had a happy visit just the other day and hope you can take some small comfort in the fact that he went quickly and is no longer suffering.
Sue...I'm so sorry to hear your brother passed away. It was a wonderful thing that he decided to spend some time with you before he left. That day will be a memory for you always. He's at peace with his maker as well. Things happened the way they were supposed to....so don't think you should have been first. That's obviously not the way it was supposed to be. He's okay now so I'm going to say a healing prayer for you tonight. God bless.
Post by Blossom/Jackie W. on May 7, 2013 7:22:03 GMT -5
I am sooo sorry to read this this morning. My heart goes out to your family. And your niece.....
I thank God that you and he had reconciled; for his sake and yours. I'm also thankful that it was quick and he didn't suffer. And that he was able to spend some time with his grandaughters and you the other day..... Good memory thoughts Sue to be left with. The other stuff doesn't matter.
As for your sisters; don't worry about too much about it. E'one deals with shocking news differently..... especially within the family unit.
Love you gal; try to stay rested as best you can...
Dear Sue - Praying for you during this very sad time. Losing a sibling is so, so difficult - you share a whole past with them that no one else will ever understand. Glad that you and your brother were reunited at the time of his passing. Think of the good times and know that he is at peace.
Thank you so very much for the condolences and prayers. They mean everything to me being from my 2nd family. Tomorrow the arrangements will be made as my sister from Albany is coming today and they're waiting for her. I won't be able to go to that. I also won't be able to go to the gravesite service as it's up on a hill. We'll be holding a memorial service for him at a later date.
Sally, you were so right about how difficult it is to lose a sibling. That is something my husband has said over and over since losing his only true brother; they were the only ones who shared their childhood and the things that went with it (they were victims of child abuse). There were a lot of years between my brother and I but as we got to be adults the differences weren't so wide. I have a lot of good memories to hang on to and I'll be ok.
Susan, You have my Deepest Sympathy. I didn't see this earlier as I don't get online too often. I am so sorry to hear about your Brother. I still really miss my Brother and he died in 2001. Time will ease the pain but it will never be the same. I can feel the sadness. Take care.