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Post by Blossom/Jackie W. on Oct 7, 2013 13:34:37 GMT -5
Sandy; I hope don't mind; but; you're a very important part of all of us here... I truly hope that your brother's jouney is peaceful. For him, for you, for your family..... We love you; thus.... we love him....
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Post by peter on Oct 7, 2013 18:28:51 GMT -5
Well said Jackie. angel
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Post by John on Oct 8, 2013 5:54:44 GMT -5
Sandy May the angels spread their wings around you in comfort & peace during these trying times . You are in our thoughts and prayers . Attachment Deleted
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Post by sallybrown on Oct 8, 2013 7:10:03 GMT -5
Dear Sandy - Please know that you and your brother are in the thoughts and prayers of many. Hoping that caring friends can ease your heart just a little.
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Post by Deborah on Oct 8, 2013 8:54:54 GMT -5
Sandy: thoughts and prayer are with you, your brother, and the family.
Deborah
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Post by susanny on Oct 8, 2013 9:07:49 GMT -5
Sandy, to you and your brother and all the rest of the family, many prayers for a loving and peaceful journey home. May God's angels surround him and keep him comforted.
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Post by mary57 on Oct 9, 2013 9:42:17 GMT -5
Sandy, prayers for your brother, and all of the family and friends. May his journey home be easy. Hugs to you.
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Post by sandy07 on Oct 9, 2013 22:37:55 GMT -5
Thank you everyone. Haven't heard any more.
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Post by John on Oct 10, 2013 15:02:23 GMT -5
Sandy I will light a candle for your brother tonight @ our shrine th_candle
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Post by sandy07 on Oct 11, 2013 8:34:50 GMT -5
th_th7angelhelloThank you John.
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Post by John on Oct 22, 2013 5:17:04 GMT -5
Sandy ; Still keeping your brother in thought and prayers . angel
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Post by Blossom/Jackie W. on Oct 22, 2013 5:52:03 GMT -5
How is he doing Sandy?
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Post by sandy07 on Oct 22, 2013 22:54:46 GMT -5
He's still in the hospital. Very weak and very close to the end. Thanks for asking Jackie.
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Post by pippy on Oct 24, 2013 10:27:09 GMT -5
th_th7angelhello My prayers are with at this time Sandy th_icon_hug
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Post by Blossom/Jackie W. on Oct 24, 2013 14:08:21 GMT -5
Sandy; you're more than welcome. This has gotta be hard. I hope that you are able to speak with him when he's up to it....
Warm thoughts, love and prayers continuing for you and him.
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Post by John on Oct 24, 2013 15:15:26 GMT -5
Sandy ;Tonight is candle night . You & your brother will have a candle lit for both of you . angel
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Post by John on Oct 24, 2013 18:55:03 GMT -5
Attachment DeletedSandy 'I lit the candles . I did have some trouble keeping one of them lit . I never had that trouble before tonight when lighting candles ,so I said an extra prayer for your brother .
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Post by sandy07 on Oct 24, 2013 23:39:48 GMT -5
Thank you John.
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Post by jim on Oct 25, 2013 0:34:43 GMT -5
Sending you and your family love and hugs, I hope his journey is a peaceful one.
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Post by mary57 on Oct 25, 2013 9:39:07 GMT -5
Sandy, keeping you and your brother in my thoughts and prayers.
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Post by John on Oct 25, 2013 14:30:31 GMT -5
Your very welcome Sandy
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Post by shelley on Oct 25, 2013 22:22:55 GMT -5
Sandy, just saw this. I hope that his journey is easy and gentle and that the path you walk is softened by the memories that lay within you as part of his legacy.
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Post by sandy07 on Oct 26, 2013 23:11:35 GMT -5
It's a long story but my brother married a Chinese lady when he was teaching in China. She convinced him to marry her. She now has managed to find out from her friends how to get control of his money. So now he has none. The kids are out of his will. ( I don't know how he let that happen) As his wife she also has told the hospital that no one can take him out for a visit but her. She takes him home, puts him in a tiny bedroom where he has to fend for himself. His daughter went over when the wife wasn't there and found pills and empty bottles all over where he must have been trying to get some morphine or pain pills of some sort. He told us when we were there that she only cooks Chinese food with rice and tiny bits of meat. He wants fresh vegetables and better food. He didn't talk badly of her when we were there but she was right there so I guess he couldn't. I've talked with the kids and I've told them to get the police, doctor, trustee or lawyer involved. He wants to be cremated and put with his first wife but this wife says open casket. It's a mess. I am so sorry he has to deal with this when it should be a time of togetherness for the family.
There are 4 kids in my family. I'm the youngest. This is the brother that got me smoking when I was 5. He's got himself in trouble over the years and the rest of the family has pretty much given up on him. I'm the only one that has kept in contact with him. That's because I always wanted to know what he was up to.
In fact tho...he's okay when he's at the hospital in the palliative care. He eats good and can get around. My niece said they might have to move him because he's not as bad anymore and they only take the bad ones there. I hope they leave him where he is since he IS doing so much better. The ones that are worried are his kids...and mostly about money..now and later. He has a boy and girl both married with kids. There's no need for him to worry about money at this point. What he needs is peace, comfort, a full stomach and no pain. I pray he can get it.
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Post by mary57 on Oct 27, 2013 11:46:25 GMT -5
Sandy, I am so sorry to hear that your brother is having to deal with this kind of situation at this time in his life. I do hope that someone does indeed step up to intervene for him. My prayers are with both of you at this time.
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Post by Blossom/Jackie W. on Oct 27, 2013 17:05:30 GMT -5
Sandy; been thinking about this..... I've said a prayer(s) but somehow it just doesn't seem enough!
Personally I don't care whether your brother was the black sheep or anything else and obviously you don't either. He's blood and God love ya for caring and wanting to do something that's "right" PARTICULARLY since this IS a time that he needs caring for and being looked after.
When a person is really ill all they want and need is some relief and help in any form and any one. I don't know whether his wife had a hand in the will changes, or the why's but at this point it sounds like he needs an advocate.
It must be frustrating at times for you, and certainly concerning and I wish I knew a direction to point you in that might be of help. His family/children/you, whoever, MUST get involved. Playing the wait game won't do anyone any good; especially him and this is a time when e'thing SHOULD and NEEDS to be about him.
You're right in telling them they have to call someone and do something; especially for their own psyche that's gonna hit them "after the fact."
May I also suggest they, someone, check with his social worker (in the hospital) and/or the hospital patient advocate. A couple of phone calls to the hospital may shed some light and point in the right direction. Maybe he should be in a care facility? It sounds like he doesn't mind being in that type of environment right now and it's understandable. He's getting care.
I pray that someone in his immediate family follows through....
Love and a special prayer going out tonight. Sarah too....
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Post by John on Oct 27, 2013 17:34:05 GMT -5
th_icon_hug angel
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Post by Colleen-Pa on Oct 27, 2013 18:53:14 GMT -5
Sandy, although I don't know you well I do read up here and have known Jackie & John (his wife & I went to school together) and Bobbi and a few others for a while~ So sorry your having to go through this and will pray for peace for your brother and you.
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Post by pippy on Oct 27, 2013 23:14:50 GMT -5
th_icon_hug th_icon_hug
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Post by sandy07 on Oct 28, 2013 23:31:24 GMT -5
Thanks everyone.
Jackie....they were going to move him again because he was so much better. But he's only better because he's there. He'd like to go to his daughter's house for visits but the wife has told the hospital that he can't go out with anyone but her. She is stopping the kids from doing anything. If I lived there I could do more but it's not possible. The kids know who to go to for help. I hope they do. See, they're worried because they were taken out of the will and the life insurance. This was the doing of the wife. How he let that happen I don't know. She seems to have something over him. I don't care who gets the money, I just hope he can die in peace and comfort.
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Post by John on Oct 29, 2013 6:13:16 GMT -5
Amen Sandy! Huggs to you . th_icon_hug
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