My fingers and toes are double / tripled crossed for him (and you). Do tell us... Is he in health problems, financial problems, relationship problems or something else? Just wondering where we can focus on crossed fingers/toes and/or prayers on...
Spike thank you so much! And everyone else. This is very hard for me, but you're my family and I can trust all of you. Unfortunately, my youngest son is not living here as I had to make him leave our home. I found drugs in his room. Bad drugs all kinds of drugs! He is as far as I know homeless, bc he will not unfortunately get help, and no matter what I have said didn't work. He continued to lie to me even after I had proof and took pictures of all the paraphernalia. I think I spelled that right? I'm broken again, I just wish I could do something to help but I can't, I don't even know where he is. He sold his car used up all the money on the car we bought him, got his last paycheck and was fired from his really very good job. I found this out through a friend who had seen him. He asked her not to tell me. He was at the hospital charging his phone. Idk about these kinds of drugs but have read everything I can find, and it's not good. Nobody should ever have to go through anything I've been through. I've brought up 3 son's, all the same way, my other 2 are fine, he choose this life instead. I do blame myself for some of it as deep in my heart I knew. I tried to always think the best. And at the time choose to believe his lies bc he's so perfect at telling them. That's why I ask for prayers, I'm devastated. Please make no options on me. Bc we have never done drugs and I had no clue, on half of the stuff I found, I had to get my oldest son to come and tell me what all of it 8s, and I'm going to tell you it's the worst I've ever seen as far as anything goes. Thanks for reading.
Oh Gail I feel so sorry for you....My youngest Son got into cocaine a few years ago and I was beside myself. He went into detox a couple of times and finally got himself clean....He had lost his business and went through all kinds of money. He has gone back into the same business under a different name....Remember Gail addicts are the biggest liars going...Nothing you can do until he decides to help himself.
Sending out prayers that he gets on the right track and you look after yourself....It's a terrible addiction...And now so many young people dying because a lot of the drugs laced with fentanyl.
Gail, I am sorry to hear this but you did the right thing. Do not enable him. I go out to the Haven House because it it a long term rehab place. I spent 13 months there in 2005 and 2006. I got clean and stayed that way. I try to help others at the Haven House and AA meetings I go to. The biggest problem is these young people on hard drugs. If I can help one person I am happy. Your son will have to hit bottom before he realizes he has a serious problem. I just hope and pray he finds out before it kills him or he winds up in jail. Keep praying and tell him you will help him to quit when he is ready.
God be with you and your son. I have been there and I am so glad I am off drugs and alcohol.
Thank you, Barb, John, and David. I was so ashamed to even tell this , but I know you're my family and I knew you would understand! My son is a heroin addict. Among many other things I found. My heart is very heavy and I can't sleep. I'm awake every hour checking my phone, bc I'm planning his funeral in my head, I can't stop it. I see him this way and I'm so broken. I just want my son back, and I want to hug him, and tell him everything will be alright. Unfortunately it is not.
When he was younger he was always the truthful one. He would tell me so much I would block my ears and sing . That would make him laugh, but he would not stop it . Now try and get the truth, he would be sitting there probably shooting up and tell me it was vitamins. Knowing me I'm so DUH, when it come to drugs now a days I haven't a clue, but I do now that I've been reading up on a lot of this JUNK. I'm just besides myself! Thanks everyone. I'm so sick over this I am praying but deep inside I'm dying a little every day.
Gail, it might be worth for you to think about going to Al-Anon. It's good to be around people who are going through the same thing. It helps. Nothing wrong with asking for help. See if there is a group meeting close to you.
Hi Ken, thank you. I've been worried about you. Thanks to all here!
Now I'm sick, my oxygen levels have gone below 90, I'm at 84 at times, I'm very weak and have a very bad chest cold or something is going on and brewing. That's what happens to me when I set up and worried night after night after night. I'm trying to let it go now hopefully he will go get some help because there's nothing I can do for him now I need to take care of myself, that sounds selfish but I have I have to do it. I still say my prayers every day for everybody here when I think of it I say prayers for whoever is in pain or needs them and I appreciate everything you guys are doing for me I wanted to let you know, my son has no friends, no family and no car, he is on the streets as I speak. I feel sick knowing this but if everyone keeps catering to him he will never learn. Okay thanks for listening God bless everybody good night,
Post by Suzanne (Suz) on Aug 16, 2017 21:00:11 GMT -5
Hey Gail, sending positive thoughts for you to heal quicker and for your son to see the light. Please keep us posted but in the meantime, breathe easy and often and get back on track... you need to heal. Hugs!!