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Post by Blossom/Jackie W. on Dec 16, 2012 7:58:48 GMT -5
Without going into too many details, Vic has received some very devastating news and he is asking for your prayers... Rita's condition has worsened considerably and her kidneys are basically failing. She's becoming weaker. Dialysis is out of the question and right now the quandry is how to pay for and where she'll receive palliative care. There will be no more rehab (she's not walking) and he will have 48 hours after tomorrow to have her moved from the facility she's currently in. (she has to be out by Wed) His daughter is flying in for a couple of days (today) Now; those of you in the US would understand/know far better than I how things work but it appears I believe he said the cost for care for her would be ($421/day) until/if Medicaid comes through which is what he's seeking. He's speaking with an attorney tomorrow. Vic's not a young man and he has severe COPD. Rita has been his love, life and mate for over 50 years and he has been the sole caregiver to her these past number of... (She has a number of medical problems) My heart and my soul just goes out to them and I cannot even begin to say I can fully grasp how devastating all this must be for him (them) on so many different fronts. Please say a prayer for them or if prayer is not what you do, send/think positive thoughts and love. Rita's not going to heal but at least pray for the lifting of some burdens for them and an easier road that is, and will have to be, travelled. Thank you, Jackie |
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Post by bobbioh on Dec 16, 2012 8:51:53 GMT -5
Praying for you and Rita Vic. The road has been hard. Things will work out they have to. I will be sending positive thoughts and praying for you and yours, Bobbi
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Post by Deborah on Dec 16, 2012 9:43:42 GMT -5
Sending prayers for an easing of your path, Vic and Rita.
Deborah
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Post by mary57 on Dec 16, 2012 9:44:17 GMT -5
Sending prayers that the road they are travelling will become easier, solutions found, and peaceful, healing closure for them both. My wish is that you Vic will be able to spend your time with Rita and the surrounding problems will be resolved for you. Huggs to both of you.
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Post by John on Dec 16, 2012 11:25:10 GMT -5
Vic & Ritia you are in my prayers.  |
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Post by annabob on Dec 16, 2012 12:27:53 GMT -5
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Post by peter on Dec 16, 2012 13:44:10 GMT -5
Dear Vic & Rita, My thoughts and prayers are with you, and the road your traveling be peaceful.
Take Care & God Bless you both.
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Post by missfortune on Dec 16, 2012 15:48:07 GMT -5
I will certainly pray for a resolution to the financial problems. As for your Rita, I ask for blessings and peace for you both. God bless you, Hugs, missfortune Judy Z
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Post by susanny on Dec 16, 2012 21:18:06 GMT -5
My heart just aches for the troubles facing Vic and Rita. My prayers are most definitely with them that solutions will be found and Vic and Rita can rest knowing she is being cared for during this time without putting a heavy burden on Vic financially. It is hard and depressing enough to have to say goodbye to a loved one, but to have to face this problem on top of everything just isn't right.
Angels will surround you both and fill your hearts with peace....
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Post by sallybrown on Dec 17, 2012 8:56:09 GMT -5
God's love and comfort to Rita and Vic during this most difficult time. Prayers will continue...
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Post by sandy07 on Dec 17, 2012 10:40:36 GMT -5
I'm praying things work out for them both. It is a difficult time. Hopefully an answer can be found soon.
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Post by Vic on Dec 19, 2012 9:53:40 GMT -5
God Bless all of you -- The prayers have helped a lot. I went to see her with my daughter Laura and Laura brought a lot of old pictures and she started to respond and she even smiled a couple of times at the pics. The next day, Laura and our son Gerard went together and brought 2 albums of photos . . . one album of Laura and one of Gerard through the years. Rita was a number-one, top-drawer mother and her kids came before anything: Den Mother, Asst. Brownie leader, Class mother for both kids, PTA Officer and so much more. She became even more alert. I went to see her yesterday and I was amazed at all she remembered from the pictures. Also there was a big band show on PBS and she was mentioning a lot of the artists as they performed.
I have retained an Elder Care Attorney who is now applying for Medicaid. This will help pay the Nursing Home when it comes through . . . a terrible lot of running around with gathering information and changing the bank accts., the House Deed and my Will. I have to get it all done by Jan. 1. In the meantime I will have to pay $421 per day. It will be worth it, she gets great care, the nurses love her (they call her Ree-ree) and she sees her Home Doctor every day. I love her more than anything in the world, of course along with my wonderful Daughter, Granddaughter Amanda and my Son. I want her to have as good a life-style as I can afford in her last days. I'm blubbering like a baby as I type this. Thank you all for the prayers and all those wonderful sentiments. -- Love to all, Vic
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Post by sandy07 on Dec 19, 2012 10:03:30 GMT -5
Vic....I'm so glad you are finally able to get things worked out. She sounds like a wonderful person. I'm sure your children really love having her as their mother. I find pictures help me remember events too. How wonderful that your kids go to visit and spend time reminiscing with her. They'll never regret the time spent. Hope you are able to have a nice Christmas with all your family.
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Post by Vic on Dec 19, 2012 10:11:40 GMT -5
Thank you Sandy, sadly, my daughter had to return to North Carolina to take care of Amanda. This is the first time she was ever separated from Laura and she was not taking it too well. She is 7 and they only have been in NC for the last 4 months, so almost everything is traumatic. -- Vic
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Post by Deborah on Dec 19, 2012 16:57:33 GMT -5
Vic: Thank you for the update. I will continue to pray for you and Rita and hope that everything continues to improve. Good luck with your work on getting the papers together before January 1st; that must be so tough.
My heart goes out to you.
Deborah
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Post by John on Dec 19, 2012 19:15:16 GMT -5
Thanks Vic .Your both in our prayers & I always light a candle for you two on Thursdays @ our shrine .  |
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Post by susanny on Dec 19, 2012 21:41:41 GMT -5
Vic. so happy to see the good news in Rita's involvement with the world. It must make you all feel much better to see her interest in something, especially the family photos. I am sure she's had to deal with some depression along with all of this and it sounds like she is spiritually picking up. I'd think it would make it easier on your daughter to have to leave her mom. I am glad you found someone to assist you with her financial care. This is something my husband is really worried about. I have a question for you: Why is the date Jan 1st that you have to have things signed by? Is it a new law, either in your state or federal guidelines for Medicaid? I know in our state that you can't have signed your house over to family in the past 3 years from date of admittence to nursing home under Medicaid. Can you please explain to me what the attorney told you? Thank you so much. I am praying for Rita and you and the family every day. I am sorry that you have to go through this. Life can be so hard and this is the hardest part of all of it.  |
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Post by Blossom/Jackie W. on Dec 20, 2012 9:07:26 GMT -5
It's O.K. to "blubber" (as you put it) you're among friends Vic and you're holding up remarkably well.... I can only imagine how hard it is right now; I know I'd be faring far worse than you..... From my  to Yours and Rita's You both are with me daily...... |
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Post by aero63 on Dec 20, 2012 9:55:44 GMT -5
Vic
You are in my thoughts and was glad to read that Rita was interacting more. You sounded a little bit upbeat. I know it has to be hard and you certainly are strong.
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Post by Vic on Dec 21, 2012 13:05:15 GMT -5
Susan -- Jan 1 is the magic date since the paperwork must be filed by that date or Medicaid won't kick in until feb 1. That would give me another 31 days to pay at $421 per day . . . another $13,000. I can't afford that at all.
Let me tell you, you folks sure are the greatest. -- Love, Vic
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Post by mary57 on Dec 21, 2012 13:49:21 GMT -5
Vic., thank your for letting us know how both you and Rita are doing. I'm so pleased to hear that she perked up with the photo albums and visit by your daughter. Thankfully things are being arranged so that she will not have to leave such a caring place and it won't bankrupt you. I'm sure this is so much harder on you than you are even admitting to yourself, and both of you are in my prayers.
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Post by susanny on Dec 21, 2012 17:09:01 GMT -5
Something is seriously wrong in your having to pay out that much per month for care for Rita. I am so happy that you are eligible for Medicaid, but in the meantime.......so very stressful on top of the worries for her health. It would definitely bankrupt us if I had to be admitted for care like that, which is what we were facing not that long ago. It scares the heck out of me and my husband. We've definitely got to get an appt with a lawyer after the holidays are over and the world is back to some degree of normalcy.
God bless both of you. Sue
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